🌍 When Open-Minded Isn’t Enough: Facing Homophobia in the Backpacker World

Travel is often painted as the ultimate freedom - a way to explore new places, connect with people from all walks of life, and grow beyond borders. For many LGBTQ+ backpackers, it’s also a journey of self-expression and liberation. But while we might expect fellow travellers to be open-minded, progressive, and inclusive, that’s not always the case.

Unfortunately, even in the most welcoming hostels and remote corners of the world, homophobia can show up - subtly or explicitly - from people we least expect it from: other backpackers.

🌈 The Illusion of the “Woke” Traveler

There’s a widespread assumption that backpackers - often young, adventurous, and globally aware - are naturally accepting. And many are. But travel doesn’t automatically equal empathy, and not everyone who posts a Pride selfie in Berlin or parties at a full moon rave in Thailand has unpacked their internalised biases.

Some LGBTQ+ travellers have experienced:

• Dismissive jokes or casual slurs ("no offense, but…")

• Assumptions that queer identities are just “phases” or “personal preferences”

• Uncomfortable questions about their sex lives

• Being ignored or excluded after coming out

• Flat-out homophobia masked as “just my opinion”

It’s jarring, especially when it comes from people who claim to be “open-minded.”

🤐 Microaggressions & Misunderstandings

Often, the homophobia you face won’t be loud or violent - it’ll be subtle. Microaggressions can be hard to call out without feeling like you’re overreacting. Comments like “You don’t look gay” or "what a waste” can sting in ways that make you question whether you even belong in these social spaces.

When you’re halfway across the world, feeling isolated or rejected by your own travel community can cut deep.

🧳 Navigating the Backpacker Scene as Queer

1. Trust your instincts: If someone feels off or you notice red flags, you’re not imagining it. You don’t have to explain or defend your identity to anyone.

2. Find your people: Seek out LGBTQ+ travel communities online - Facebook groups like our own has group chats to meet other queer travellers. Sharing your experience with someone who understands makes a world of difference.

3. Set boundaries: You don’t owe anyone your story. If questions feel invasive or a conversation turns disrespectful, it’s okay to walk away or shut it down.

4. Know it’s okay to feel let down: It’s disappointing when people you thought were allies aren’t. Your frustration is valid. You don’t need to minimise it.

✊ You Deserve Joy, Too

Just because some people won’t understand doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to take up space. Queer people belong on the road, in hostels, in group chats, on treks, and at bonfires just like anyone else.

Travel can be lonely - even more so when you’re constantly sizing up whether it’s safe to be yourself. But it can also be beautiful and affirming when you find your people, your rhythm, and your voice.

You’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking to be respected.

❤️ Final Thoughts

Not every backpacker is as open as they claim to be. Homophobia - even the subtle kind - can sneak into shared dorms and group dinners. But calling it out, sharing your truth, and finding other queer travellers helps break that silence.

Travel boldly. You’re not alone - Join our queer backpackers facebook group here