The Realities of Traveling as a Lesbian Couple: Navigating Challenges whilst Backpacking

Traveling as a lesbian couple can be an exciting adventure, but it also comes with unique challenges. Here are some common experiences you may encounter and tips for handling them:

1) People Don’t Believe Your Relationship

In some places, people may assume you're "just friends" rather than a couple. Some just simply don't believe you even when you tell them.

How to Handle It: A simple affirmation can help, but remember, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. It’s about your comfort and safety.

2) People Will Sexualise You

As a couple, you may face unwanted sexualised attention or assumptions based on stereotypes.

How to Handle It: Assert your space and set boundaries. Your relationship is valid, and you have the right to privacy.

3) Pretending to Be 'Just Friends'

In certain places, you may end up choosing to downplay your relationship to avoid drawing unwanted attention.

How to Handle It: Sometimes, adapting to local norms can keep things smooth. However, try to stay true to yourselves when you can, but with safety always in mind.

4) Separate Beds, Even When You Request a Double

Some accommodations may assume you want separate beds because you're two girls, even if you’ve requested a double on the booking.

How to Handle It: Request a change politely - Make sure your accommodations respect your needs.

5) Limited PDA to Avoid Stares

In some places, public displays of affection may attract stares or negative attention.

How to Handle It: Remember your relationship is valid and should't be hidden. However, If stares/attention make you feel really uncomfortable, you may end up choosing more discreet ways to show affection e.g. linking arms instead of holding hands.

Final Thoughts

While these challenges are be extremely frustrating, traveling as a lesbian couple is still an incredible experience. Surround yourself with supportive communities to meet other queer travellers (like ours - join here), travel carefully, and enjoy discovering new places together.